Fruit Diet: Gentleness




We have a little four month old baby girl at home.  We also have a rambunctious 3 year old.  I use the word gentle a lot.  I mean a LOT.  The older one wants to “pet” the baby all the time.  Or she runs toward us to tickle and might be a little too rough.  So I’m constantly using the phrase, “be gentle.”  I tell her that because I want the oldest daughter to think about how the baby feels.  That’s what gentleness really is isn’t, when we think about someone else’s vulnerability in a given situation and try to bring life instead of hurt. The encounter that comes to mind when I think of Jesus’ gentleness is the woman at the well.  

If you’ve grown up in the church you’ve heard this encounter I’m sure.  It’s found in John 4.  The Samaritan woman comes in the middle of the day to draw water and Jesus is there alone.  He asks her for a drink and she’s like, why ask me I’m a Samaritan and you’re a Jew.  They didn’t associate.  And Jesus says, well if you knew who I was you’d ask me for living water.  Because I can give you water where you’ll never be thirsty again.  Well the woman sees that as a chance to never have to come back to this well.  So she says tell me how I can get it.  But Jesus says go and get your husband.  

To this the woman replies, "I have no husband."   Jesus proceeds to tell this woman all about her life and the multiple husbands she has had.  He tells her that this current fella isn’t a husband but more of a live-in-boyfriend.  Then they also have a theological discussion about where to worship.  She finally says well, when the Christ comes he will tell us what to do.  And Jesus said that’s me.  I’m the Christ.  

Then it says in verse 39 “ Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.”

In this scenario Jesus doesn’t just come out and say, hey you can’t keep a man and you aren’t married to this guy but you’re shacking up with him anyway.
What he does is sees her broken places and then speaks life into them.  This woman didn’t need more shame, she needed life.

When we want to bear the gentleness of the spirit dwelling in us we have to see the brokenness of the people around us and be willing to speak life into those places not shame.
I feel that our country could use some gentleness right about now.  We are living in what people keep calling unprecedented times.  While most of us have never lived through a pandemic we have lived through people being sick.  We have lived through people being hurt and taken advantage of.  We have lived through prejudice.  And, for those of us that know Jesus Christ as our savior we will live through this world and on into eternity with him.  So, if we know that kind of security in these uncertain times it is our responsibility to be gentle as Jesus was gentle.  We need to look around us and see the vulnerable places in people’s lives and bring them life not shame and hurt. 

Maybe you’re saying, “Great, Jamie, but how?”

Easy, we just listen to people where they are, and offer Jesus.  That’s what Jesus does at the well.  He listens to this woman.  Even though he knows all about her, he listens to her.  Then he offers himself.  So, today, friends offer Jesus to those who are hurting.  In other words, “be gentle.”

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